I have a theory, based on fourteen seconds of email conversation with a writing friend. We are both happily married and have lots of imaginary boyfriends. I know that there are people out there who think that reading romance sets us up for unreasonable expectations from real relationships, but I read somewhere that married women who read romance "get lucky" twice as often as women who don't (which makes sense to me. I've read Tom Clancy, Stephen King and Dan Brown, and rarely have those writers put me "in the mood").
I wonder if the same romance-reading women are twice as likely to stay faithful? Are we more likely to stay married? I mean, if we can crawl into a fictional Happily Ever After, every now and then, does it take the edge off of the "O. M. G. What was I thinking when I said yes?"?
As of yesterday, The Big Guy and I have been married 20 years. O. M. G. We are working our way through our Happily Ever After--sometimes it's a walk in the park, many other times it's a labor of, well, LOVE. I suspect that making it this long without killing each other (and only occassionally wanting to) is due in equal parts to Love, Hope, Faith and plain old Unwillingness to Quit; but I am willing to give the Romance Writers of America their percentage, too. Sure hasn't hurt things any!